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Is chasing DSA for secondary school worth stressing my P6 kid over?

Parent of two who've been through this. DSA is genuinely worth it IF your child has a real, demonstrable strength they enjoy, a sport at national age-group level, a strong instrument, a coding or robotics track record. It's a poor fit if you're manufacturing a talent last minute just to game entry, kids can tell they're being used and it backfires at interview. My elder got in via badminton, which she loved anyway, so it wasn't extra stress, it was her hobby with a bonus. My younger had no standout, so we skipped DSA entirely, focused on PSLE, and he got a great school on merit with zero portfolio drama. Don't let kiasu parents make you invent a passion. If the strength is already there, pursue it. If not, PSLE is a perfectly honourable path.
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Pets 52

Which dog breeds are actually allowed in an HDB flat? Confused by the rules

HDB dog owner here. For a standard flat, only ONE dog is allowed and it must be from HDB's approved list of smaller breeds, think …

Health 47

Persistent acid reflux and GERD, should I go polyclinic or straight to specialist Singapore?

Start at the polyclinic or your GP first, don't jump straight to a private specialist and burn hundreds of dollars unnecessarily. …

What are the things you wish you knew before buying your first COE car in Singapore?

My honest lesson, I let excitement rush me and I overbought. Got a nicer model than I needed and the depreciation plus running cos…

What's it like working in the civil service in Singapore?

Been in a stat board for 6 years. Honestly it's a lot more varied than people think, but it depends heavily on which agency and wh…

My manager keeps taking credit for my work. How to handle?

Had the same manager type. Honestly I just left after a year, some people won't change and fighting it drains you. But before that…

Employer keeps paying salary late, what are my rights?

Document, document, document, this is the single most useful thing you can do right now. Screenshot every late payment date, save …

COE hit 100k again, is it worth buying a car in Singapore or just Grab everything?

With two young kids in Sengkang, I say the car pays for itself in sanity, not dollars. Try lugging a stroller, a diaper bag, and a…

IPPT tips, how do you actually pass (and hit the incentive money)?

Book your IPPT early in your window, this is the tactical tip people ignore and then regret, because if you attempt it early and f…

What's it really like going back for NS reservist in your 30s with a full-time job and kids? How do you cope?

The IPPT is the part that stresses working dads the most, so let me be practical. You get a full window to clear it, and honestly …

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Can I keep a dog in my HDB flat? Which breeds are allowed?

Licence is cheap and mandatory, please don't skip it thinking small dog no one will know. My neighbour kena a complaint because th…

How do you actually decide whether to top up CPF or invest the money yourself?

Honestly at 32 with 20+ years runway, I'd lean more ETF. The 4% is nice but historically a broad market index does better over tha…

Should I use CPF OA to pay my HDB loan or pay cash?

The trap with using all your OA is that when you sell to upgrade, so much of the sale proceeds get swallowed back into CPF (princi…

Failed my IPPT window, what actually happens now?

The trap isn't failing IPPT, it's ignoring the RT bookings that follow. THAT is what gets people charged. Take the RT seriously, a…

Company wants us back in office full time, I'm considering leaving. Overreacting?

Do the honest math on the commute. 3 hours a day, 5 days, is like adding an unpaid part-time job. If your role can genuinely be do…

如何做一個好印象在面試?

在面試前,你應該要好好準備自己,穿著漂亮的衣服,帶著一份漂亮的履歷表,同時也要好好準備一些面試常見的問題。

With COE crossing 100k, is owning a car in Singapore still worth it, or is Grab and MRT the smarter move?

I ran the numbers obsessively and stayed car-free even with two kids. We spend maybe 600 to 800 a month on Grab and occasional car…

What's the actual difference between AWS and 13th month?

Just to add: AWS is based on your basic salary, not gross, so allowances and OT don't count towards it. Also note CPF is payable o…

What are genuinely good cheap things to do on weekends in SG?

Follow the free festival and event calendars, there's something almost every weekend, light-ups, night festivals, cultural celebra…

Is a confinement nanny worth 4k for the first month?

Whatever you choose, book early if you want one, good nannies are snapped up months ahead especially around CNY. Also personalitie…

Side hustle selling on Shopee, do I need to register business and declare income to IRAS?

Register the sole proprietorship, it's cheap and gives you legitimacy plus lets you open a proper business bank account, which mak…