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Toxic boss but good pay and role, do I stay or leave?

My manager micromanages, takes credit, and messages after hours constantly. But the pay is good and the role looks great on my CV. Torn between staying for the money and my sanity. What would you do?
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Poly Student Nurul Beginner First-hand experience Year 2 poly student doing biz admin, can share about attachments, GPA stress and part-time job hunting.
Stayed too long under a toxic boss once, and it cost me more than the good pay was worth, so hear me out. First, separate the fixable from the not. Micromanaging sometimes eases if you proactively over-communicate progress so they feel in control, worth trying for a month. After-hours messages, set a gentle boundary: acknowledge, but reply during work hours unless truly urgent, and see if they respect it. Credit-stealing and no boundaries at all, that rarely changes and it grinds you down. My rule now: is this a bad season or a bad situation? A bad quarter under pressure is survivable, a fundamentally toxic person who won't change is not. Practically, don't rage-quit. Use the good role to quietly line up your next move: update CV, interview while employed (much stronger position), and leave on your terms with the CV credential banked. That way you get BOTH the resume value and your sanity. Money is real, but chronic stress shows up as your health, your relationships, your sleep. No pay fully compensates that long-term. Plan your exit, don't just endure indefinitely.
Anonymous contributor Beginner First-hand experience
Job-hop is normal in SG, no shame. If the boss is truly toxic and won't change, start looking now while you still have the job and the good title. Interview from a position of strength. Don't suffer for years, your mental health is not worth any bonus. But do leave professionally so you keep the reference and network intact. Quiet exit beats dramatic one.
Nurse Kak Nora Beginner First-hand experience Staff nurse at restructured hospital 14 years, can explain subsidised ward, MediSave claim and A&E wait time.
Before leaving, consider an internal transfer if the company is big. Sometimes the company is fine, only the manager is the problem. I moved to another team in the same firm, kept my pay and seniority, escaped the toxic boss. HR handled it discreetly. Worth exploring before you throw away a good role and salary entirely.

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