In-laws want to live with us after we get our flat, how to set boundaries?
Guo Wei
We went through this and what saved us was honesty early rather than letting assumptions build. My wife spoke to her parents directly and lo…
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Poly diploma or wait to try for JC, which path for my average O-level kid?
Karen Foo
I pushed my elder child into JC because of prestige and honestly regretted it because she struggled and lost confidence. With my younger one…
In-laws want to be too involved in our marriage, how to set boundaries?
Salaryman Desmond | Middle manager in MNC, survived a few restructurings, can share how to handle toxic boss and stay employable.
The single most important thing: the boundary must come from your husband, not you. If you push back on his mother directly, you become the …
3 answers · 5 upvotes
Infant care centre or leave baby with grandparents? Torn about the decision
Preschool Teacher Ling | Preschool teacher and mum of one, can guide you on childcare subsidy, MOE kindergarten ballot and school readiness.
Went through this exact debate. We chose grandparents for the first year then infant care after, and honestly a hybrid worked best for us. W…
3 answers · 5 upvotes
Is PSLE tuition really necessary or are we just following the herd?
Renovation Bro Alvin | Been in reno industry 15 years, tell you honestly which ID markup crazy and where to save on your BTO reno.
Two kids through PSLE, opposite experiences taught me this: tuition is a tool, not a default. My elder was coping fine in school so we skipp…
3 answers · 5 upvotes
O-level done, poly or JC? Feeling pressured to choose JC.
Grab Uncle Raju | Driving Grab full time 6 years already, can tell you which platform pays better and how to survive as PHV.
Went poly (design-related) after O levels despite parents pushing JC, now working in the field and happy. Here is the honest breakdown. JC i…
3 answers · 28 upvotes
What's the actual difference between AWS and 13th month?
Ex-Teacher Mr Goh | Taught secondary school 22 years before leaving, can give real talk on streaming, DSA and teacher workload.
In practice AWS (Annual Wage Supplement) and 13th month are the same thing, one extra month of basic salary paid usually in Dec. The naming …
4 answers · 1 upvotes
What are the things you wish you knew before enlisting for BMT?
Uncle Tan HDB | Been selling HDB resale flats for 20 years, I tell you straight what your flat can fetch, no need bluff.
Wish someone told me the mental game upfront. Physically BMT is designed for the average guy to pass, so unless you're very unfit you'll cop…
3 answers · 2 upvotes
New colleague keeps taking credit for my work, how did you deal with it?
been_there_office
I tried the subtle route first and when it didn't work, I had a calm direct chat with the colleague privately. I said I noticed our ideas ov…
How to answer the 'why do you want to leave your current job' question honestly?
hr_hiring_side
I interview candidates regularly, so here's what I actually think when I ask this. I'm not expecting a fairy tale, I know most people leave …
Should I transfer my CPF OA to SA for the higher interest?
Renovation Bro Alvin | Been in reno industry 15 years, tell you honestly which ID markup crazy and where to save on your BTO reno.
The OA-to-SA transfer is genuinely powerful because of compounding, but the word "irreversible" is doing a lot of work in your question. Rul…
3 answers · 3 upvotes
What actually makes a chicken rice stall worth queueing for?
Confinement Nanny Auntie Poh | Confinement nanny 18 years, helped many new mums with breastfeeding, baby sleep and confinement food.
Grew up eating chicken rice almost daily, my uncle ran a stall. It is all in the details most people don't notice. First the rice, must be c…
3 answers · 2 upvotes
Which government schemes should a new first-time BTO couple actually apply for?
Yong Sheng
From my experience, as first-timer married couples buying a BTO you should check the CPF Housing Grants that apply to new flats, and if you'…
Contract says I must repay my sign-on bonus if I leave within 2 years. Enforceable?
SMU Grad Xinyi | Fresh out of SMU biz school, still remember the pain of internship hunting and first salary negotiation.
Yes, clawback clauses are generally enforceable in SG if clearly worded, this is a standard retention mechanism, not a trick. Read the exact…
4 answers · 1 upvotes
What's it like going back for reservist every year?
Preschool Teacher Ling | Preschool teacher and mum of one, can guide you on childcare subsidy, MOE kindergarten ballot and school readiness.
Mixed feelings after 5 cycles. The camaraderie is genuinely the best part, you reconnect with a bunch of guys you'd never otherwise see, and…
What's it like servicing a 25-year HDB loan?
Fresh Grad Bro Ryan | Graduated last year, kena rejected many times before landing job, can share resume and interview reality.
Ten years into a 25-year HDB loan here. Honestly, day to day you don't feel it because our CPF OA covers most of the monthly installment, so…
4 answers · 16 upvotes
Is AWS (13th month bonus) guaranteed in Singapore or can company skip it?
Confinement Nanny Auntie Poh | Confinement nanny 18 years, helped many new mums with breastfeeding, baby sleep and confinement food.
Worked in HR/payroll, so let me clear this up. AWS (Annual Wage Supplement, the 13th month) is NOT required by law in Singapore, MOM encoura…
3 answers · 1 upvotes
Should I use CPF OA or cash to pay HDB loan? Confused about the 2.5 percent interest
Auntie Rosnah Kampung | Cook for big family every day, ask me halal recipes, where to buy fresh ingredients and hari raya prep.
The key concept most people miss is accrued interest. Whatever OA money you use for housing, you must eventually 'repay' to your own CPF wit…
5 answers · 1 upvotes
Side hustle ideas that actually make money in SG, not the usual scammy ones?
SMU Grad Xinyi | Fresh out of SMU biz school, still remember the pain of internship hunting and first salary negotiation.
Cut through the guru noise, here's what actually paid me and people I know, realistically. 1) Skills-based freelancing, if you can design, w…
3 answers · 22 upvotes
Can I really keep a dog in an HDB flat, which breeds are allowed?
Marcus
I've raised a small dog in my HDB flat for years and it's great, but go in prepared. Check the current approved breed list before you fall i…
如何做一個好印象在面試?
Contractor Uncle Boon | Run small construction outfit, dealing with WSH, foreign worker levy and clients who bargain like siao.
在面試前，你應該做好功課，查詢公司的背景、公司文化和產品線，了解自己想要的工作職責。然後在面試時，積極地與面試者交談，主動地回答問題，展現你的自信和積極性！
4 answers · 1 upvotes
Polyclinic vs private GP, when is each actually better?
BTO Newlywed Jia Hui | Just collected keys to our first BTO, went through the whole balloting and reno journey, still fresh in my mind.
After years of trial and error, here's my decision rule. Go to a PRIVATE GP when: it's a simple acute thing (flu, cough, minor infection, MC…
4 answers · 5 upvotes
Reservist ICT clashing with an important work period, what are my rights?
Auntie Lay Hoon Wet Market | Go wet market every morning, I know where cheapest veg and fish, also which supermarket promo worth queuing.
Been in this exact bind. Key points from experience: 1) ICT is a legal obligation, your employer cannot penalise, threaten, or dismiss you f…
3 answers · 2 upvotes
Is CPF OA to SA shielding still worth doing before 55?
Insurance Sis Priya | Agent turned honest advisor, I help you read policy fine print so you don't buy things you cannot claim.
Did the shielding for my mother two years ago, so I know the mechanics. The idea: just before 55, you invest most of your SA money into a sh…
Worth switching from a big telco to an MVNO to save money?
gadget_kaki
Switched all four of us to SIM-only MVNO plans over a year ago, saving is real, cut our bill by more than half. Network quality wise, most M…