Dating for 5 years but scared to commit because of housing and money
Cheryl
I felt the exact same way and honestly what shifted things was separating the wedding from the marriage. We were stressing over a big banque…
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BTO vs resale for a young couple, which makes more sense now?
Michelle Ng
We went resale and I don't regret it, but go in with eyes open. We wanted to live near my parents in a mature estate for childcare help, and…
PSLE stress is destroying my P6 kid, how to cope as a parent?
Rahim
I've been through PSLE with two kids and the second time was much calmer because I stopped micromanaging. Kids can't focus when a parent is …
Chronic work stress, can't switch off at night. Anyone found something that works?
Grab Uncle Raju | Driving Grab full time 6 years already, can tell you which platform pays better and how to survive as PHV.
Please don't brush this off as being dramatic, months of 4 to 5 hours sleep with racing thoughts is your body waving a red flag. Been exactl…
How do you actually decide between paying off your HDB loan early or keeping the cash in CPF and investments?
Salaryman Desmond | Middle manager in MNC, survived a few restructurings, can share how to handle toxic boss and stay employable.
We ran the numbers and chose NOT to prepay, and three years on it was the right call. The HDB loan is 2.6% but our CPF OA earns 2.5% risk-fr…
5 answers · 4 upvotes
What's it like negotiating a counter-offer after you already resigned in SG? Is it worth staying?
Property Agent Fiona | Licensed agent focusing on condo rental, help expats and locals not kena cheated by unrealistic asking price.
I took the counter-offer in 2022, a jump from 6k to 7.1k plus a 10k retention bonus with a 12-month clawback. On paper it looked great lah, …
5 answers · 2 upvotes
What actually makes a chicken rice stall worth queueing for?
Confinement Nanny Auntie Poh | Confinement nanny 18 years, helped many new mums with breastfeeding, baby sleep and confinement food.
Grew up eating chicken rice almost daily, my uncle ran a stall. It is all in the details most people don't notice. First the rice, must be c…
3 answers · 2 upvotes
BTO vs resale flat for a couple in our early 30s in a hurry to move out, which one did you regret less?
Elderly Caregiver Mdm Fong | Caring for my elderly parents at home, know about eldershield, home care grants and getting a helper approved.
We went resale in Bishan in 2023 because we simply could not wait 4 years, and I don't regret it, but the cash was brutal. The valuation was…
Just ORD-ed, how many years of reservist do I actually have and what should I expect?
Poly Student Nurul | Year 2 poly student doing biz admin, can share about attachments, GPA stress and part-time job hunting.
Congrats on ORD. Straight answer: after your full-time NS you serve as an Operationally Ready NSman for a number of years, during which you …
4 answers · 5 upvotes
Best way to find a good hawker stall that isn't just Instagram hype?
heartland_foodie
I stopped trusting the viral lists and started exploring my own neighbourhood coffee shops and older hawker centres like the ones in mature …
Is buying a resale HDB over a BTO worth it for a couple who cannot wait 4-5 years?
CPF Guru Benjamin | Spent years reading every CPF policy update, I explain OA, SA, MA transfer and RA top-up in plain English.
We went resale in Bishan two years back, paid about 680k for a 4-room and yes it hurt compared to a BTO. But we moved in within 3 months, no…
5 answers · 4 upvotes
How does Baby Bonus and CDA actually work, worth maxing the CDA?
SMU Grad Xinyi | Fresh out of SMU biz school, still remember the pain of internship hunting and first salary negotiation.
Two kids, so I know this well. Two separate things. One, the Baby Bonus Cash Gift is paid out to you in instalments over the early years, st…
3 answers · 5 upvotes
Final round interview asks 'expected salary', how not to lowball myself?
Priya
I used to blurt out my current salary and it capped every offer. Now I frame it around total package. I say something like: 'My current tota…
Should I transfer OA to SA for higher interest before 55?
Bee Lian
From my experience, the OA to SA transfer is powerful because SA earns 4 percent versus OA 2.5 percent, and compounded over 15 years that ga…
My kid got PSLE score 192, which secondary school is realistic?
Data Analyst Wei Ling | Work as data analyst in a bank, can advise on breaking into data, SQL upskilling and which cert actually useful.
With 192 (AL) you are in a solid band lah, but branded schools like the top IP ones usually need low single digit totals. Honestly for that …
4 answers · 21 upvotes
PSLE stress is killing our family vibe, how did you cope?
letgo_mummy
Been through PSLE twice with my two kids. The biggest thing that saved us was accepting early that PSLE is not the end of the world, and act…
Constant work anxiety and burnout, where do I even start to get help in SG?
Auntie Susan Church | Active in my CC and church, know a lot about grants, senior activities and where to get help when stuck.
Been exactly where you are, the Sunday night chest tightness, so first, that is real and you are not weak, that is your body waving a red fl…
3 answers · 4 upvotes
Is topping up SRS actually worth it just for the tax relief?
Property Agent Fiona | Licensed agent focusing on condo rental, help expats and locals not kena cheated by unrealistic asking price.
Been contributing to SRS for years, here's the honest calculus. SRS is worth it in proportion to your marginal tax rate. If you're in a high…
4 answers · 3 upvotes
Renovation contractor did shoddy work, can I use Small Claims Tribunal?
Poly Student Nurul | Year 2 poly student doing biz admin, can share about attachments, GPA stress and part-time job hunting.
Went through the Small Claims Tribunals (SCT) against a contractor, won, so here is how it really works. First, check eligibility: the SCT h…
Got a counter-offer from current boss, take it or leave?
Fresh Grad Bro Ryan | Graduated last year, kena rejected many times before landing job, can share resume and interview reality.
I accepted a counter-offer once and regretted it within 6 months. Here's why: the reasons I wanted to leave (bad manager, no growth) didn't …
3 answers · 10 upvotes
With COE so high, is owning a car in SG still worth it?
Hawker Ah Boy | Third generation running our chicken rice stall, ask me about rental, ingredient cost and why food price go up.
Family with two kids here, we crunched the numbers hard. Owning a mid-range car all-in (COE, depreciation, insurance, road tax, petrol, park…
Worth switching from a big telco to an MVNO to save money?
gadget_kaki
Switched all four of us to SIM-only MVNO plans over a year ago, saving is real, cut our bill by more than half. Network quality wise, most M…
Is it damaging to job hop after only 1 year?
Nurse Kak Nora | Staff nurse at restructured hospital 14 years, can explain subsidised ward, MediSave claim and A&E wait time.
I hopped at 11 months once and nobody blinked. The trick is you don't make it a pattern. One short stint on your CV is fine, two or three ba…
4 answers · 2 upvotes
Son enlisting soon, can he choose his NS vocation and does it matter?
Hawker Ah Boy | Third generation running our chicken rice stall, ask me about rental, ingredient cost and why food price go up.
Served, and now watched two nephews go through it, so here is the practical picture. He cannot fully choose, but he can influence. Vocation …
3 answers · 4 upvotes
Is a confinement nanny worth 4k for the first month?
Preschool Teacher Ling | Preschool teacher and mum of one, can guide you on childcare subsidy, MOE kindergarten ballot and school readiness.
Best money we spent, and I was the skeptic. After a C-section I physically could not do night feeds, cook, and recover at the same time. Our…
4 answers · 23 upvotes